When You Let Go of How, Life Brings the Wow
Most of us are experts at asking how.
How can I make this work?
How will I reach that next milestone?
How can I possibly make this dream real?
It feels responsible to ask why, Wise even. But focusing too much on how can shut us down before we’ve even begun. Instead of expanding, we contract. Instead of dreaming, we overthink.
The real breakthrough comes when we stop how-ing ourselves and start dreaming.
Why “How” Holds You Back
Our minds love clarity. We want to map out each step so we feel secure. But when we cling too tightly to how, we cut off possibilities. We can’t imagine what’s beyond what we already know.
When I first moved to Australia, nothing on paper made sense. I had no money, injuries, and no clear way forward. If I had stayed in the how, I never would have built the business, partnership, and life I now cherish.
Life unfolds in ways we can’t predict. Our job isn’t to micromanage every step, it’s to stay connected to the dream itself.
The Power of Dreaming Without Limits
Dreaming without knowing how is an act of trust. It says: my desires are valid, even before I have the steps figured out.
This is what differentiates the Good Girl from the Iconic Woman.
- The Good Girl shrinks her vision to match her current resources.
- The Iconic Woman holds the vision boldly, trusting the path will reveal itself.
A Story of Trusting the Wow
Years ago, I dreamed of working in the film industry. I had no connections, no clear entry point, and no obvious path. If I had focused only on how, the dream would have ended there.
Instead, I allowed myself to dream, and through a string of chance encounters and conversations, I found myself working alongside producers on a major project. None of it was planned. All of it was possible because I stayed open.
That’s the wow that emerges when we let go of how.
Your Invitation
Take a moment today to reflect:
- Where are you stuck in the how?
- What would happen if you shifted into dreaming instead?
- What would you love, without limits?
Write it down. Speak it out. Let yourself feel it. The steps will unfold when the time is right.
Ready to explore this more deeply? Listen to the full conversation on Episode 4 of The Sass’n Soul podcast.
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